She kept negotiating with herself — quietly, reasonably — until she almost talked herself out of the life she actually wanted.
A live coaching membership for people who already know the patterns and are ready to do something different.
She was a sustainability nonprofit leader with a track record most people would envy. Strong fundraising. Loyal team. A reputation for steady leadership through hard seasons.
But over the years, her husband's career had moved them from city to city — and each time they moved, she'd taken whatever job was available in the new place. Each move, a small pay cut. Each move, a quieter job. Each move, a slightly smaller version of the role she was actually qualified for.
By the time we started working together, she was preparing for one more move — back to a city she'd lived in before. And she was determined to do it differently this time. She wanted a role that fit her experience. She wanted to live with intention. She wanted to stop shrinking.
The problem wasn't strategy. She knew how to apply for jobs. She knew how to interview.
The problem was internal. After a decade of incremental concessions, a quiet voice inside her had started making the case that she probably couldn't get the next-level role she actually wanted. That she should aim lower. That asking for what she'd earned a decade ago was maybe asking for too much.
She was, in plain language, negotiating with herself.
Talking herself out of what she deeply wanted, in the most reasonable, professional voice imaginable.
So we did the work. Not just résumé work — Self-leadership work. We met the parts of her that were trying to keep her safe by keeping her small. We rebuilt her relationship with her own authority. And from that place — clear, grounded, no longer arguing herself down — we built the strategy.
She landed the job. The one she described, four years later, as "such a tailored, perfect fit."
But here's what I didn't expect — and what she didn't expect either.
The same work that helped her stop negotiating herself down at work started showing up at home. Her relationships with her immediate family deepened. The dynamic with her partner shifted. Old conversations that used to go sideways started landing differently.
Friends began noticing. Not because she was talking about it — because they could feel it. A few of them asked what had changed. A few of them ended up working with me. A business was born from one of those conversations.
That part wasn't on her job-search agenda when we started. It came as a consequence of doing the internal work. Because the patterns of playing small don't stay neatly in one domain.
The voice that talks you out of the role you're qualified for is the same voice that talks you out of the conversation you need to have with your partner. The same voice that talks you out of the friendship that asks more of you. The same voice that talks you out of the business you keep almost-starting.
When you stop negotiating with yourself in one place, the negotiation everywhere else starts to give too.
That's what this membership is for.
If you're reading this, you probably recognize some version of her story.
Not the details. The shape of it.
The quiet, internal negotiation that sounds suspiciously like wisdom.
You're not failing to know what you want.
You're losing it in the negotiation.
And the negotiation isn't just at work. It's at the dinner table. It's in the conversation you keep almost-having with your partner. It's in the friendship that's been quietly asking more of you. It's in the business idea you've been carrying around for two years.
The pattern of playing small doesn't stay in one domain. It shows up everywhere — quietly, reasonably, in your own voice.
You've probably noticed: insight alone hasn't been enough to stop it. You can see the pattern in real time and still find yourself in the middle of it before you can do anything about it.
That gap — between knowing and doing differently — is where this membership lives.
☀️ How It Works
Rooted Renewal Premium gives you four live group coaching calls a week, plus a structured Self-leadership curriculum, so insight stops being something you collect and starts being something you use.
Weekly Live Coaching Calls
Each week, you bring a real situation:
- A decision you're avoiding
- A conversation you're stuck in
- A pattern you keep repeating
- A negotiation you're having with yourself
Inside the session, we:
- Clarify what's actually happening (not what your protective parts are saying)
- Identify one clean next step
- Design a small real-world experiment
Then you go back into your life and test it.
You return with what happened. We refine from there.
That's how clarity becomes something you can actually use.
You may submit questions and situations via an online form before sessions. Playbacks of all sessions are available inside the membership area within 24 hours.
☀️ Self-Liberation Intensive
(or Mindful Dating Intensive, if you're at a dating crossroads)
My signature Self-leadership curriculum scaffolds your experience month over month.
- Bite-sized teachings in video and podcast format
- Interactive playbooks for each module
- Submit your playbook for anonymous feedback during a live session
- One module per month, twelve total
This is a rhythm, not a task list. You are always right where you should be.
Who This Is For
This membership is for therapists, coaches, physicians, attorneys, nonprofit leaders, executives, and business owners who:
- Are navigating a real-life threshold — a relationship decision, a career change, an empty nest, a partnership question, a season of becoming who you actually are
- Want structure over intensity, and depth over drama
- Have read the books, done the therapy, attended the workshops — and still keep falling into the same patterns in the moment
- Run a business and have realized that your biggest problems aren't strategic. They're internal and relational.
- Have a business partner and recognized recurring problems between the two of you
- Want to serve your clients from a more centered place — and live that fully for yourself
- Want the internal infrastructure to make better decisions, not just more information about what to decide
If you want occasional inspiration, this isn't for you.
If you want steady formation, you're in the right place.
Sure. But what does this do for my business?
What you carry doesn't stay neatly on the personal side of the line.
It shows up in how you respond when a client triggers you. Whether you can hold a clear boundary with a business partner without going cold or collapsing. How you handle the weeks when revenue dips and your nervous system starts running the show instead of you.
Self-leadership isn't personal development you do instead of professional development. It's the foundation your professional decisions rest on.
The Rooted Renewal membership is a legitimate professional development expense. Many members — therapists, coaches, and mission-driven business owners — use it that way, because they've recognized that the quality of their inner leadership directly determines the quality of what they offer.
And Self-leadership benefits the bottom line. Your accountant can confirm it. But you probably already knew that.
What changes in your work
When you stop managing from fear and start leading from your actual Self:
- You stop over-accommodating in professional relationships. Decisions get made clearly, not by whoever's most anxious that day.
- You bring a different quality of presence to your clients — regulated, genuinely curious, not performing steadiness while privately running a fear response.
- You can navigate disagreement — with a partner, a colleague, a client who's testing you — without either collapsing or escalating.
- When your business hits a hard season, you have internal resources to draw on instead of going into survival mode.
- And all of the above shows up in your revenue.
None of this is a side effect. It's the point.
And because the patterns don't stay in one domain — neither do the changes. Members consistently report that the work spreads. Steadier marriages. Real friendships. Reconnection with their own creative life. The internal architecture you build here serves every relationship you're in, including the one with yourself.
Voices from the Path
Here's what begins to change when people stay with this work.
"Allowing Yael to guide you is like having the most experienced and confident and trustworthy Sherpa on your ascent of Mt. Everest — although in this case you are traversing your own internal landscape."
"I've done so much inner work over the years, but the process Yael guided me through helped everything finally click. The workbook and videos were like having a wise companion beside me — asking the exact right questions, helping me see patterns I hadn't recognized, and inviting me to meet myself with compassion. My spark feels alive again."
"I've worked in coaching programs before, but this was different. The process helped me find what's truly mine — values I can't argue with, strengths I had forgotten, and a way of seeing my inner parts as allies rather than flaws. It's the most grounded, affirming, and liberating work I've ever done."
"Yael's unique blend of psychiatry, spirituality, and deep authenticity makes her unlike anyone I've ever worked with. She's generous with her time and wisdom — you always feel seen, cared for, and supported. The accessibility and personal connection are beyond anything I've experienced elsewhere."
"I've led groups before, but I'd never been brave enough to join one. I was surprised by how safe, productive, and deeply connected it felt. Seeing how my parts mirrored others' reminded me that I'm not alone. The group work was unexpectedly healing — a deep sense of belonging I didn't know I needed."
"I came to coaching hoping to solve a few surface problems. What I found was a deeper transformation — understanding why I do what I do, how my parts try to protect me, and how compassion changes everything. This work has expanded my self-compassion and, by extension, my compassion for others. It's changed how I live and lead."
☀️ Why Begin Now
You've likely downloaded a course, signed up for a free training, or saved an article that promised to help — and set it aside for "later."
Often, later doesn't come.
Unless you plan ahead.
That's where this membership comes in. Weekly live opportunities — already planned, already scheduled, already waiting for you. You don't have to find the time. You just have to show up to the time that's already been set aside for this.
You've learned the tools. Now you need a place to apply them.
Rooted Renewal Premium is a structured, IFS-informed membership where you practice discernment, strengthen Self-leadership, and make aligned decisions at life's crossroads — in real time, with steady support.
✨ Where Science Meets Soul
I'm Dr. Yael Dubin — a former psychiatrist and professor turned Self-leadership coach and spiritual guide.
For more than two decades I've devoted myself to the study and practice of healing — weaving neuroscience, positive psychology, somatic wisdom, mysticism, and depth-oriented coaching into a coherent path of personal and professional formation.
Across all my work, I support people at various crossroads to reclaim their inner wisdom, release old relational and internal patterns, and live as the version of themselves they actually came here to be — one honest conversation, one breath of Self-energy, one courageous step at a time.
Frequently Asked Questions
A gentle clearing for any tender parts that still have questions.
What if I join and don't use it?
You don't have to do everything at once. Rooted Renewal is designed as a place you can return to — again and again — as your crossroads unfolds.
What if I can't come to all the live circles?
You're held whether you attend live or not. You'll have weekly check-ins and access to recordings/podcasts of every live session. Many members experience the sessions through the replays and still feel deeply supported.
Each gathering is designed as a ritual rather than a one-time event — the intention, the teaching, and the energetic coherence remain intact long after the live moment has passed. Come when you can. Receive in the way that fits your life.
I'm already busy. Will this feel like one more thing on my plate?
The membership is intentionally designed to reduce overwhelm, not add to it. The longer self-study courses (Self-Liberation Intensive or Mindful Dating Intensive) release one module per month. You're free to move at your own pace — there's no pressure to keep up.
Gatherings act like sacred pauses — moments to breathe, re-center, and return to yourself. This is not a productivity space. It's a sanctuary.
What if I'm new to IFS, somatic work, or spiritual practices?
You don't need prior experience of any kind. Everything is offered gently and in plain, human language. Many members arrive curious but new to the frameworks. You'll learn through presence, not performance — and your own inner wisdom leads the way.
I've taken programs before and didn't follow through. How is this different?
Most programs push for progress. This membership supports organic unfolding. Clients often say things like "everything finally clicked," "my goals shifted into something more aligned," and "my spark feels alive again."
You won't be left to navigate alone. The monthly rhythm, the safe container, and the steady presence support gentle, sustainable integration — not willpower.
What if I start and realize it's not for me?
You can cancel anytime with a simple click — no guilt, no hoops. Your most recent payment won't be refunded, but your membership won't renew. Your agency matters. Your inner knowing is trusted here.
What if I'm sensitive or introverted?
You're welcome exactly as you are — and I want to be honest with you about something I've learned from doing this work for years.
Quiet participation is real participation. You can keep your camera off. You can use the optional written check-ins instead of speaking. You can listen, reflect, and engage silently if that's what nourishes you on a given day.
And — I'd be doing you a disservice if I didn't tell you the truth: the members who show up, even quietly, get more out of this than the ones who hang back from a distance. Showing up off-camera is participation. Sending in a question via the form is participation. Being in the room is participation. Hanging back from everything isn't safety — it's the same protective pattern that brought you here in the first place.
I created this space for sensitive and introverted people because I am one. We move at a gentle pace. There's no performing, no pressure, no high-energy social container. And there's an invitation to engage at a level that actually serves the work — at whatever volume fits your nervous system that day.
You choose the rhythm. I'll meet you there. But I'll also gently keep inviting you in.
Is this therapy?
No. This is not psychotherapy or medical care. The membership blends Internal Family Systems wisdom, somatic grounding, mindfulness, Torah mysticism, and leadership psychology — but always in an educational, reflective, and spiritual framework, with an integrated focus on coaching you to use these tools with increasing mastery.
If you have a therapist, this space can complement that work beautifully.
What if my goals or inner landscape shift during the year?
That is expected — and celebrated. Most members find their goals evolve as they come into deeper relationship with their values and inner world. One member described it as "finding what's truly mine." Another as "becoming my own guide, healer, and leader."
This membership is built to support that evolution, not hold you to outdated expectations.
What makes this membership different from others?
This is real coaching, not a content vault.
Most memberships in this space sell you a library and call it transformation. You log in, you watch the videos, you wonder why nothing in your life has actually changed.
Rooted Renewal is structured around something different: weekly live coaching, where you bring real situations from your real life and we work them in real time. The curriculum is the scaffolding. The coaching is where the change happens.
Structure and substance. That's the difference.
Will I get personal attention?
Yes — in a spacious and sustainable way. You're held by my presence in every gathering. If you want deeper, more personalized work, you may add private coaching sessions at a 30% member discount.
You can begin this week. You don't have to wait until things are clearer.
That's what your protective parts will tell you — that you should wait until you're calmer, clearer, less overwhelmed. Until you've thought about it more. Until the timing is better.
The negotiation is the pattern.
Rooted Renewal Premium is the place where you bring the negotiation into the light — and start choosing differently.
Start your Premium membership today and join this week's live circle — a space where you can actually engage with the work and ask questions in real time.
You'll receive a reminder email 3-4 days before your first renewal. Cancel anytime with one click.
You can begin this week.
You don’t have to wait until things are clearer.
Enter the Circle
